Co-Parenting is Not a Political Campaign

The other day, I was out for my morning walk, letting my brain be bored and wander.

Without any particular reason, it grabbed onto a bit of info about my co-parent and started coming up with how I could turn it into a "zinger. "

Zingers in my book are evidence that I could throw out in an argument to make my co-parent look bad, so that I could "win" the argument. (Queue Evil Mastermind cackle...😈)

About 30 seconds into this mind wander, I caught myself.

And I just started smiling and chuckling ... because there's nothing I have to win.

My co-parenting relationship is not a political campaign.

There isn't going to be a winner and loser.

I don't need to store up "zingers" or evidence to prove I'm a better parent or human, or to convince someone that I deserve what I want.

Nope.

And neither do you.

Votes aren't going to be counted. There isn't a scoreboard.

When you catch yourself stockpiling "zingers", instead ask yourself "What do I really want?"

Shift your energy from collecting evidence to make them look bad, to problem-solving to get what you want.

I promise it will feel a whole lot better in your body and a heck of a lot more empowering.

And if your brain starts saying "But Meg, I can't have what I want because they are doing XYZ!" then let's chat.

You may not yet be able to see a way to get what you want, but I promise you there's a way (and probably 5 different ways).

Stop trying to win at co-parenting and focus on getting what you really want in your life!